Sunday, December 23, 2012
A Gift To Give Yourself
Isn`t it something how we all tend to be more introspective when the holiday season is upon us?
Perhaps that has to do with knowing another year is about to end. Or, it`s simply due to being with family and friends, many we haven`t seen all year. Whatever the reason to look into ourselves, it can be quite an eye opening experience.
I`d like to pass along a holiday wish that I`d enjoy seeing all of you give to yourselves in the coming year.
That gift is to believe in yourself and your dream.
I know that sounds trite and easy to do. But it isn`t. Sometimes it is one of the hardest things a person can do. And please don`t think this relates only to writers, for it doesn`t. If your dream is to make flowers out of duct tape for a living, or play the banjo, or get hired as a personal back washer for Godsmack`s Sully Erna (I`m still working on this one) or painting a picture or a hundred million things that folks dream of doing, believe in that dream. Do not let the negativity or scoffs of others deter you.
If you`re sixty and dream of being a pole dancer, go for it. Sure some in your family will raise eyebrows, or make snide comments. Some friends may chuckle at your ambitions or tell you flatly that they just cannot understand you at times. That`s okay. Let them wander what propels you. There are going to be those who will never get why we do what we do. And that is fine. As long as they`re supportive even if a bit befuddled then all is well.
Sometimes there will be others who not only don`t understand your dream, they`ll try to destroy it with negativity. They`ll nit and pick and put you down. They`ll snipe and complain and make you out to be the weird one. They may make comments such as ‘Why don`t you get a real job?’ or ‘You are far too old to be a lawyer, doctor or astronaut.’ Or ‘No one will take you seriously; just stop now before you embarrass yourself.’
Don`t let them ruin your dream. Ignore them. Tell them that you will chase your dream if they support you or not. Hug them and ask them to come along for the ride. If they choose not to hitch their wagon to your star, as sad as it is, leave them behind. Move on. Find a group that knows and shares your dreams. Seek out fellow artists, thespians, pole dancers, authors, bongo drum players or doughnut hole fanciers!
Just keep on dreaming. Keep reaching for the brass ring. Believe in yourself and your dream. It is not silly or fruitless or stupid. As Henry David Thoreau once said-
“Go confidently in the direction of your dream. Live the life you have imagined.”
Wishing you and yours a joyous holiday season.